A few weeks ago, a friend complemented a pair of earrings I was wearing and when I thanked her, I mentioned that I had just bought them for $12 at TJMaxx. She replied that she was surprised because they looked much more expensive. My response, “Oh, since our house was burglarized three years ago, I don’t buy expensive jewelry anymore,” got me thinking about how much that experience affected me.
It wasn’t the things, mostly jewelry, that I lost in the burglary that disturbs me the most. Of course, I miss the sentimental necklaces and earrings that my family had given me throughout my lifetime, but it’s a much more personal loss – the loss of a sense of security and safety that my family and I felt after the incident. Although I thought I had dealt with my feelings about it, my response to my friend and realization that I don’t treat myself to a pair of gold earrings or a gemstone pendant indicates that I still carry that insecurity with me today.