Guilt: The Working Moms Constant Companion

May 15, 2015 by

I found myself saying it again. “I’d love to help, but I work full time.” This was in response to the current PTA president’s plea for board members for next year’s committee. I really would like to participate…if I didn’t work full time. I’ve been a PTA board member before-for two years, I was the fundraising chair at my son’s elementary school. It was like holding down a second full-time job in addition to my regular jobs-my professional one, my mommy duties, and freelance writing gigs. By the end of the two years I was completely burnt out…and to be perfectly honest, a little bitter. Still, I felt guilty saying “no” when approached by the current president to help out. That guilt, it seems, is the working mom’s constant companion.

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Childcare and Work Out-of-the-Home Moms

Feb 26, 2015 by

I’ve been a work out-of-the-home (WOTH) mom for more than 12 years, so I would have to say that I have a pretty good grasp on the issues facing most WOTH moms.  There’s guilt (Will my kid suffer?). There’s logistics (Which route from the office to the daycare center has the fewest traffic lights). There’s the lack of time to catch up do household chores (you never really catch up). But the most challenging issue has been finding reliable, affordable, quality childcare.

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Ode To a Working Mom

Feb 19, 2015 by

I’m away on business this week, as I am often enough. I sat down tonight to write all about how much being a travelling mom can suck. How I miss my babies and feel extreme guilt wondering just how much travel is too much, and how they will think back to this time when they are adults (“Sure, mommy was great, but she was never around”…).  But as I contemplated all of those things, I had to stop and think about the moment.

In this moment, as I return from a working dinner 1500 miles away from my sweet little family, my children are fed, teeth brushed, books read, and tucked lovingly into their beds.  They are feeling safe, secure, and taken care of.  Their world continues spinning – lunches packed, shuttled to school and various activities, dinners made – despite my distance, and that is all due to the most amazing working mom I know.

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Some thoughts on childcare.

Feb 11, 2015 by

I recently watched an interview with Kelly Corrigan (one of my favorite authors) and Margaret Atwood (a well-known prolific author whose work I’m embarrassed to say I’ve never read).  Kelly has started this video series with help from Medium.  The premise of Foreword is that she asks some of the world’s big thinkers about big ideas.  We have enjoyed every episode, but the Atwood interview is by far the best of the videos released so far.  The interview spawned an hour-long discussion with Honey and I about all sorts of things.  It is long, but I strongly encourage you to check it out.

 

Atwood says something so simple that struck me as profound around the 8:00 mark of the video.  Corrigan asks Atwood what would change if there were more women in the work force in the next 100 years.  Her response?  Better daycare.

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Pumping at work…when you’re not at work

Jun 9, 2014 by

By now, you know that my new job has provided me an excellent lactation room—the Moo Moo room—and how relieved I was that I didn’t have to return from maternity leave to my old job where I likely would have been pumping in my car while the entire downtown business district watched. Having a private place to pump was not exactly a benefit provided by my former employer; with my new job, however, I am more than happy to escape to my comfortable, private room to watch TV while I pump and then store my stash in the in-room refrigerator.

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