Daycare Drop-offs Getting Harder

I really haven’t struggled too much yet with doing daycare drop-offs, at least in the sense of feeling overly emotional about leaving the baby with someone else all day. Until the past few weeks…

Now that Lills 10 months old, she is so much fun, totally adorable and she really knows I’m her mom. I’m not going to lie, even though it might make me sound like a bad momma, in the beginning I was relieved dropping her off at daycare because she was a really fussy and colicky little girl. Feeding her one bottle took an incredible amount of perseverance. I looked forward to going to work to have a break from baby care, it was so intense and I was exhausted on all fronts. (I’m glad that’s out in the open)

Now that she’s older I’m having so much more fun with her. I love playing with her, being silly, singing to her and all that normal parenting stuff. I’ve been finding that lately when I drop her off I stand there for an extra 10 minutes watching her, telling her I love her and that I’m going to miss her. Of course, she totally doesn’t care. She just wants to start playing and acts like my smothering her with love and kisses is annoying. She’s happy at daycare, loves her daycare provider and, in fact, cries every time I pick her up in the evening. So it’s not her, it’s me.

Has anyone else experience this? Did it get harder to leave your kids at daycare as they got older or did you experience the reverse? I’d love to know!

7 thoughts on “Daycare Drop-offs Getting Harder

  1. Michelle- i can definitely understand! In the very beginning when i dropped Jake off, it almost seemed like a relief to be going to work after feeding him throughout the night, and then the fuss fuss of the morning, but now it’s like we’re BFFs and i have to literally keep looking at the clock at home to make sure to get out of the house on time! He’s the cutest in the morning when he’s walking around the room eating bits of animal crackers and just being cute. But, as Sarah mentioned, i’m sure i will be back to going on “work vacation” when the terrible 2s hit…… 🙂 but for now, i’m totally smitten and miss the kid like mad when i’m at work. (thank goodness for the tons of Jake pics on my iPhone!)


  2. My kid was pretty easy as a baby (and now) but I also kinda looked forward to getting to work, drinking a full cup of coffee and just talking to adults. Then around 7-8 months, right when the fun began, Peanut also started to get separation anxiety and is still like that (although just with me). Now that she is just over 1, dropping her off is almost impossible. I want to stay and play with her, i want to watch her interact with the other kids, I want to chase her around the room while she squeals with delight. It doesn’t help any that she bawls whenever I try to leave her, or holds on to my legs, or gives me tight hugs in hopes that I won’t leave.
    My solution to this is that whenever possible my husband drops her off. She doesn’t seem to mind going to daycare as much in the morning, she and I get a nice, calm goodbye when I help him strap her into her car seat, and I’m not spending most of the morning holding back tears.


    1. Wow, that sounds really difficult! My little babe could care less about me once she’s at daycare, which also stings some days to be honest… Right when I walk in she’s reaching for her daycare provider.


  3. I’ve had it both ways; one daughter who cries and screams to see me go, and another who can’t wait for me to get out of the room. It’s hard both ways. I can remember the eight to almost eighteen month mark being difficult for me at drop off. I think it has something to do with that age and all the developmental milestones and the explosion of personality, and they are extra cuddly and lovey 🙂 Don’t worry, by the time the terrible two’s hit, you won’t be able to get out the door fast enough 🙂


  4. Michelle I can totally relate! Some mornings I will actually go out of my way to get a coffee (whether or not I really want one) at the Dunkin Donuts near Caroline’s daycare provider’s house just to have an excuse to spend a little bit more time with her before dropping her off! I do think it gets a little more difficult to drop them off at daycare when they get a little older – I find myself so entertained all the time with my daughter. There’s always something new and sometimes I’m afraid to blink for fear I might miss something!


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