Today, my daughter is one year old. One year! When did that happen? In some respects, this was the fastest year ever. In others…well, too many sleepless nights can make time feel like it’s creeping by. Still, would I change anything about this past year? Not a moment.
And that’s how I want every year to be. I don’t want to regret a single moment spent with my sweet, snuggly, funny, brave little girl.
I had a post started to mark her birthday. I had begun to draft a list of what I learned in my first year as a working mom. I’ll probably still write that post, but it’s not what I decided I needed to post today.
Because I know, as a mom who works from home as a social media consultant, I spend my fair share of time on my smart phone. And that’s just for work. Add in texting, Pinterest, Words with Friends, Facebook and everything else I use the internet for for recreation, and that’s a lot of time logged on my mobile device. If I’m being truly honest with myself, I can easily spend nearly 10 hours on my phone a day. Yeah, I just took the time to add that up. Ten hours wrapped up in some activity on my tiny screen.
Sure, it’s understandable to use my phone for work, even for several hours a day. It’s work, after all. But I have been guilty of distracting Nora with a toy so I could play, too; but not with her, on my phone.
If you’re honest with yourself you’ve done it too. And don’t get me wrong, I give so much of myself to Nora and I know that she gets oodles of quality time with me where I’m not distracted by my shiny, blinky thing. But I never want Nora to be one of those kids the other blogger mentions that feels they’re being ignored by a parent because they’ve put their phone first. That scares the crap out of me. And Nora means way too much to me to ever let something like a phone make her feel like she’s anything but my number one priority.
So I’m going to give Nora the best birthday present I can think of at the moment. My presence. Time every day with my undivided attention. And I’m going to challenge dad to do the same. I know it’s not realistic to say that I’ll never spend time in her presence distracted by my phone; when my job is a mobile, virtual one, it’s expected that I’ll get lost in it sometimes.
But I can do my best to keep it in check, starting now. So, now, I put down my phone, grabbed my camera (yes, my REAL camera, not my Instagram app), and photographed sweet little baby feet:
It’s just a start, but I want my daughter to know that I’m here for her, for the big things AND the little things.
I encourage you to read the blog post that inspired this one. There’s no need to wait for your child’s next birthday to give them the gift of your attention, time and love.