Different views on our mommy bodies

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The other day I jumped out of the shower and walked by my full body mirror and had one of those days. I almost screamed out in terror and wanted to run from the hideous beast in the mirror.

This is a huge change for me because I came to terms with my body a long time ago. I was never the tiniest girl (the last time I saw a size two I think I was about 2 years old) and never had huge boobs, but I felt good in my own skin. I knew what my good features were and played those up.

I used to like having sex with the lights on, I didn’t mind wearing a bikini, etc. Then my son came along. I went through 9 months of pregnancy and even then felt good. It was not until after that I began to feel bad about my body. When I say this I do not constantly worry about it but after 6 months I still have maternity pants I wear. So this got me thinking, how we as mothers see our bodies versus our husbands who are the father of our children too. I decided to ask my husband.

He is wonderful to me and has always been an ego booster for me and my body. I still remember when I started dating him and I complained about not being stick skinny and his response was “Katie if I wanted to have sex with a stick skinny, bony chick I might as well be gay. Women should have curves; most women just think we want it when in fact we want a woman.” Swoon, and my heart skipped a beat, but I digress.

So I asked him one night “Hun you have friends who have children and now you do? How do they all feel about their wives post baby body?”

He laughed and responded “You women are crazy; we do not see what you see. Honestly I just see a hot woman who will have sex with me. Most men do not notice all the imperfections you see yourself.”

I stood there and laughed because it is true. Men are not complex or nuts like we are. They just see a woman. So I am going to try and not be so hard on myself. Maybe we should all try that…

8 comments on “Different views on our mommy bodies”

  1. Katie,

    I just wanted to thank you for your post. I too was never a skinny “chick”, but I came to terms with my body. I loved being pregnant and loved how my belly looked. But now, I feel like I have regressed back to high school and am going through body image issues all over again! So thank you for posting this. 🙂

  2. This post could not have come at a better time for me because I’ve really been down about this lately. I’ve never been skinny but I’ve never had a problem with it, always been one of those women who is okay with who I am and what shape my body is. I know that magazine pics are Photoshopped like crazy and that most women don’t look like that; I’m average size for an American woman. Even after having two babies, I was still not feeling too bad. Last week I had a physical, though, the first one since before my babies. I’m 5’6″ and weigh 180 and I am considered “obese.” This absolutely floored me. To stand there and have a stranger (man) tell you you’re obese and that you need to lose thirty pounds to be “normal??” I went home and cried and cried. I looked up my pre-pregnancy info and I was this same weight before I got pregnant. Not sure if that makes me feel better or worse! Isn’t it crazy that I could be okay living in my body every day, and my husband can love my body the way that it is (though I’m not sure he would ever dare to say anything but, “You’re beautiful”), but that one comment could devastate my normally very strong self image? All of a sudden I don’t want to take the kids to swim lessons because I have to wear a bathing suit — the same bathing suit I’ve been wearing in front of the same people for eight weeks now. So I guess this issue hits all of us, even those of us who normally think we’re rather immune to the issue of an ideal female body. I found a website on Pinterest that lets you put in your height and weight and other measurements and see pictures of women who have those same measurements. It’s supposed to give you some perspective about how you look (it’s hard for us to see ourselves) and I think it helps. It’s http://www.mybodygallery.com.

    1. Just checked out that website and I agree it really does put things more in prespective and helps. We see people every day that we think look small, skinner, better than us. But after looking at the page it really makes you see that many of them are the same size/shape as us and look great.

      I actually read an article recently that shooked it. It was by Tyra Banks, and she was saying how the fashion/model industry is getting bad with too skinny girls. She was saying how when she started she was a size 4, but if that was today she would be considered too fat to model. A size 4 is too fat. What???? She said most want a size 0, not a 1 or 2, but a 0. Tyra even said she never heard of a size 0 when she first started modeling. They had in it pics of her when she started and models from today in similar outfits and it really shooked me. To me, Tyra Banks actually looked better but still skinny. The others had no shape at all and you could see their bones. Things like this I think make all of us question how we look. When we see women like that all over TV, adds, magazines, etc it makes you wonder what is the ideal size, shape and since I am not that I most be fat. I really wish the fashion/model industry would get a clue as to what really women look like.

    2. Jen- I am in the same boat and know how you feel 100%. Not sure that helps but we can support each other!

  3. I so relate to this Katie. I am really hard on myself for not getting to a healthy weight. I’m uncomfortable all the time, but literally every single day my husband tells me I’m beautiful. I don’t get it! He loves me, and my body, no matter what size I am. I wish I could say I feel the same way about myself, but it’s a work in progress.

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