Reconnecting with My Partner


Last night my hubz and I did something we had only done once since our daughter was born 14 months ago. No, not that – get your mind out of the gutter!

We went on a date!

Hubz and I

The first year of having a baby was very trying on our relationship. Lills, my daughter, was a very colicky baby. That combined with my traumatic birth experience made for a very rocky first 6 months of parenthood for us. Sometimes we were on the same team and other times, we argued, slept in different rooms and did what we needed to do to cope with life. I would love to say becoming new parents was all sunshine and rainbows, but the be honest, it was really, really difficult at times.

We went on our first date post-baby to attend a friend’s wedding and while it was lovely – we didn’t go out by ourselves again until yesterday.

Date Day:

Pretty much all day our little girl was a handful so we were stressed and had a hard time communicating with each other. despite that rocky start, we committed to going out on this date. My sister was nice enough to come up and hang out at our house so we could go out to a local restaurant called Rooftop120 – a super cool place if you want to sit outside and enjoy a pretty view (the drinks are delish too!).

Once my sis was settled in and we put the baby to bed (we went out after we put her to sleep) we headed out to the car. My hubz opened my car door for me (super sweet) and drove us to the restaurant. As we walked hand-in-hand heading to our destination I already felt more relaxed. We sat down at our table which was beautiful and just kind of looked around for a minute. We leisurely looked over the menu and ordered some drinks. For a while we sat there and said nothing. Not because we didn’t have anything to say to each other but because sitting there, in each other’s company was so relaxing and wonderful there just weren’t words to say.

Then, slowly, we started to talk about life, stuff that’s been on our minds and began giving each other compliments. I told him how handsome he looked and he told me how beautiful I am. Little things, yes, but the little things tend to be the most important. It was so wonderful to reconnect and spend time together.

We even had a fun visit from two of our best friends who we haven’t hung out with, sans baby, since the baby was born. It was heaven.

Our pals

We left saying to each other that we must make it a priority to go on one date a month. We’ve got to start making our relationship a top priority again and we’re committed to starting now.

How do you and your partner make your relationship a priority?

6 comments on “Reconnecting with My Partner”

  1. Beautiful picture!

    We are moderately good about getting out…we do a date night about every other month and have even enjoyed an overnight each year for our anniversary. But that still isn’t really a whole lot. My trouble is 1) asking for help and 2) taking people up on help when they offer. We’ve got a great paid sitter but can’t afford to use her all the time. Now that the kids are getting a bit older family has started offering to watch them but I have trouble taking them up on their offers. My kids are good, but there are 3 of them and that’s a lot of work – I know! Plus the baby has trouble separating and I feel bad about leaving a family member with her screaming, and she doesn’t go to sleep well, and and and….well, you see how I talk myself out of the offers real quick 😉

  2. We need to get out more. I find it hard, because due to work schedules we only get one day together as a family per week, and I feel so much guilt about leaving L with a sitter – like we should be doing family things rather than going out as a couple. The grandparents are always willing to babysit (and for free!) but we just don’t take advantage of it very often. We should, though.

  3. Great post Michelle! The best gift you can give your children are parents who love each other – and dates help deepen that connection.

  4. This past weekend my hubby and I went to a Jack and Jill baby shower. No kids were allowed to attend due to a large amount of people invited. Because my hubby wanted to go to support his best friend, he arranged for his mom to babysit. It was great because we were able to take the motorcycle that I haven’t ridden on since last summer.

  5. The hubs and I go out at least 1-2 times a month! We have been doing this consistently and it is fabulous! It keeps us remembering why we had the kid in the first place lol

  6. Yay for date night!!! I admit, that the hubby and i need to do this more often and as the kids get older it gets a bit easier! I love my babysitters, but i wish I had some free ones closer!

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