As some of you may know, I’m the Queen of True Confessions. I’m an open book. I don’t know what else I can add to my years of confessions, but here are some highlights.
* I tell my boys not to wipe their boogers on the sheets…but sometimes I wipe mine there thinking “it’ll get washed eventually.”
* I love junk food and always have. I’ve instilled a love of junk food in my kiddos (like that was hard).
* I pretty much let my kids eat whatever they want, whenever they want. My 5 year old ate skittles for breakfast recently while we were away on a trip.
* I believe candy eaten with joy is healthier than broccoli eaten by force.
* I think it’s important to teach my kids not to be afraid of any type of food (including the aforementioned skittles and junk food). Because they are allowed to have sugar every day, often they choose not to. They’ll also refuse sweets at parties and get-togethers, turn down free cookies at the grocery store, and usually leave some of their dessert on the plate.
* My 7 year old and I share a love of vending machines and both have a dream that we’ll have one in our finished basement some day.
* I’m looking forward to getting my 7 year old a “soda stream” for his birthday so he can turn whatever drink he wants into something bubbly.
* Since I stopped worrying about what my kids are or aren’t eating they’ve been A LOT healthier.
* And one more food confession: my 16 month old baby likes to eat dog food and dog treats. He will often sit down right next to our doggie and share her dinner. He will also scream if we take the dog treats away, so we just let him eat them.
* I swear. All the fucking time.
* Rather than teaching my boys to be safe, I prefer to teach them that they are FREE. I believe there is safety and wisdom in the freedom.
* Most of the time I don’t want another baby, but I also don’t want my hubby to get snipped and take that dream of a daughter away permanently.
* I think this post I wrote on colic is BRILLIANT and should be required reading for every parent who has to go through it.
* I co-slept with all three of my babies ~ that’s nearly 8 years of co-sleeping. One day in October I declared I was fucking DONE. Since then my 2 older boys have been in their bunk beds and my baby sleeps with my hubby or in a futon. This feels good.
* I sincerely hate the term “stay-at-home-mom” and never, ever call myself that ~ even though that’s what I do.
* I look forward to the day when every Mother gets recognized and compensated for the hard work that they do.
* I am SO OVER the “Mommy Wars” and debating “who has it harder” as we pit working moms against mothers who stay home. Why do we do this? So we can see who earns the most sympathy? Is that want we want out of life? SYMPATHY? I believe such debates keeps us separated, when really we should be supporting each other AND each choice WITHOUT judgment. And instead of aiming for sympathy, we should just be trying to live the best life we possibly can. Period.
* I radically unschool my boys and am not at all interested in “where they should be” according to school standards.
* We don’t and never have had a regular doctor. I’ve never come home from a doctor visit with a solution, only an outrageous bill.
* I feel no guilt about McDonald’s, TV time, or video games. So sue me.
* I’m a rebel…but I don’t want my kids to necessarily rebel against me.
* My children are much better at showing unconditional love than I am ~ though after almost 8 years of practice I’m getting much, much better.
* I yell a lot less than I used and things that used to bother me…don’t. I’ve worked really, really hard on this.
* Up until recently I would intervene every time my husband said something to our children that I didn’t agree with. I realize this was undermining in SO MANY WAYS and after a lot more hard work, I rarely do this anymore. As a consequence he is a much better father since I’m “letting” him be the father he wants.
* My marriage was on the back-burner for about 6 years…now after even more hard work, “WE” are a priority again.
* Being married with kids is A LOT OF HARD WORK!
* When cleaning up our playroom I will throw out toys that haven’t been played with in a long time (as long as my kids aren’t looking). This has back-fired on me quite a few times, when my oldest will ask for some obscure toy he hasn’t played with in 3 years. But I still do it.
* When running errands with my boys I will usually let them get a treat or small toy. Instead of feeling guilty about this, I believe I’m teaching them that the world is abundant!
* I don’t always make my boys brush their teeth.
* My three boys are the LIGHTS of my life, and even though being with them 24/7 is sometimes hard, I feel they have also given me so much FREEDOM.
* I’m a radical, free-spirited Mother and if I confessed any more some small-minded person might call the authorities!