Baby? Maybe.



Two weeks ago, we got the phone call giving us the green light to move ahead with the IVF process.  Huge, right?  This week, we’ll attend an IVF info session, and we’ll  hopefully begin discussing the details with our fertility doctor at an appointment later in the month.

In the meantime, I’ve decided to start preparing myself for the process.  I’ll admit that, after learning we needed help in this department, I stopped trying so hard (although not in the obvious way, my husband will be glad to tell you).   In one way, it was a relief to let go a little.  I didn’t buy another bottle of prenatal vitamins when they ran out—who knew when I’d really need them, anyways?  I gave up taking my temperature in the mornings to track my cycles.  I stopped using ovulation predictor kits to be sure our timing was right.  It felt good to be free of all of that tracking, analyzing and anticipation.  It’s incredible how much time and energy I put into those activities, and how much space they took up in my head every day.  Now, with the prospect of IVF, the stress is a bit different, but it doesn’t sabotage most of my day.

But there are things I feel I need to do to prepare for this next step, before the doctors give me their long list.  I’m going to start taking those prenatals again, because they’re amazing for you, baby or no baby.  I want to sign up for a yoga class, as much for the exercise as the meditation and relaxation.  I’m focusing a lot more on what I eat, how much sleep I’m getting, and relaxing on my time off so that I am at my best when we’re ready to start.

I never thought I’d be so excited for the prospect of multiple—and self-inflicted—injections, extra hormones in my body, and the poking and prodding of doctors.  Doctors who, less than a year ago, were mere strangers, and who now know every last, intimate detail of my body and sex life.

While the process of IVF by no means guarantees us a baby, I am thrilled to at least be given the chance to try.  A baby?  Maybe.  A huge leap in the right direction?  Definitely.

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7 comments on “Baby? Maybe.”

  1. So exciting! Be aware though, once you relax a baby might just happen after all! My husband and I were told the only way to go for our second was IVF and unfortunately we were not in a place financially to do it. So, we calmed down, went about our daily lives and got used to the fact that there was to be only one child in our lives. Lo and behold, 4 months later #2 was cookin! I’m so happy for you to have this opportunity and I hope you get pregnant on your first try!

    1. Gen, I think it’s great that you are taking care of yourself. You have always been so dedicated to all your life’s pursuits–much to the admiration of everybody who knows you–especially Dad and me. But I’m glad you are consciously taking care of yourself and easing up a bit. I read Chris’ blog first and now I feel embarassed about our conversation-I guess you never know how what you do makes an impression, even on your own daughters. I love you more than I can say, and I apologize. See you Sun. Give my love to Len. Mom

  2. Gena – Good Luck !! I too have been through IVF several times. Nothing is that bad when the end result is a baby or maybe even two.

  3. Best of luck! So, on the acupuncture, I haven’t looked into it for fertility but I did use it during my very difficult first labor and it helped a lot. Just thought I would mention it since we’re discussing it now in this thread, lol.

  4. Yes, it sure is!! One of the best things about turning to the RE is putting the job of getting pregnant into someone else’s hands. This is a huge step towards your goal!

    One more suggestions for you to-do list? Have you considered acupuncture?

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