Help! It’s Groundhog Day…Again!


We’re only into our second week of the school year and it’s already starting to feel like Groundhog Day.  Every day I get up right after my husband gets out of the shower.  I throw my robe on and get going with the getting ready.  I’ve been getting up earlier so the race isn’t as frantic as it has been which is nice.  I kiss the husband good-bye, get the girl on the bus and head to work.

I spend my day there doing the same thing almost every day: watching the clock until it’s time to go home.  (Ok, maybe it just feels like that’s all I do!)  Then I fight traffic, run inside and start getting ready for dinner.  Some nights I cook, some nights my husband cooks, and then there are the “other” nights.  (“Too tired, let’s do cereal.”)  Once we’re done with dinner and have pulled as many of the fascinating kindergarten details out of Zoey as she’s willing to share, another bell goes off and it’s time for the bedtime routine.  Since I get home from work so late–around 6:00–there is so little time to spend together before bedtime, which starts at 7:30 if we’re lucky.  The rest of the night is a blur of toothpaste, bedtime stories for the kid and a little TV or books for the grownups.  Ignore dishes in the sink, set the alarm, shut off the light and BAM!  Another day done and what’s my reward?  I get to start all over again in a few hours.

Does this sound familiar?  It’s the same day over and over.  There’s not a lot of variation.  Oh wait, last night I cleaned the cat litter box and did laundry!  Does that make my life exciting?  Um, not really.  Ok so how can I keep my sanity and bring some excitement into my daily routine?  I’ll even settle for “slightly different” over “thrilling”.  Don’t want to set my expectations too high.

I feel that I don’t have enough going on that makes me “Me” with a capital M.  I love my daughter and enjoy (almost) every minute I spend with her.  But what do I have to offer her?  When I’m dead and gone, I want her to remember me as…something.  But what?  A great mom, sure, but what else?  One of our bedtime stories last night was a cute book called “Me…Jane” about how Jane Goodall dreamed of helping animals from the time she was a little girl.  She grew up and she did just that.  It was such a great book to introduce Zoey to Jane; strong female role model, a message to follow your dreams, wildlife conservation–the whole shebang!  Well, I want to have that kind of impact on my daughter.  I’m not saying that I want to go to  Africa and live in the bush so I can study chimpanzees (wait–that would be really cool) but I want to DO something.  I want to be the kind of mother who has something to show for her life, one who Zoey can look up to and respect and be proud to say, “Yeah, that’s MY mom.”  I’m not even approaching this dilemma as an overworked mom who has no time for herself.  If I wanted to pursue something that was just for me, my husband and I would totally make it work.  But the thing is I just don’t know what that something is.

I know I’m doing an amazing thing, raising a fabulous daughter and running a great family.  I am so grateful for the opportunity to be this wife and this mother that I have become.  But is it enough?   Will I be satisfied that I’ve done all I could have done at the proverbial end of the day?  So, here’s my question to you-it’s a two-parter:  What do you do to bust the daily doldrums of your routine?  And what do you do to leave your mark on the world, while building a lasting impression on your children?  How did you find something that truly turned you on about yourself; that you were willing to pursue?  What was it and how were you able to pursue it?  Ok, so it’s more than two questions, but I am dying to hear your answers.  Give it up ladies. 

There's always time for a bus stop selfie! Photo: K. Stevenson
There’s always time for a bus stop selfie!
Photo: K. Stevenson

6 comments on “Help! It’s Groundhog Day…Again!”

  1. I feel exactly what you wrote and have always felt the need to DO something bigger and better for my boys to remember me by,but with our busy monetize life especially now during soccer season, full time jobs and chores,it is difficult. So what I realized over the years is it is the little things and time spent with them that I think they will remember. They will remember me at their games,back rubs,turning the music up,watching our favorite shows,eating dinner(even if its cereal) together as a family,week end trips..just making memories
    Don’t get me wrong I still think what can I do,and I did take a job with lesser pay to be more accommodating to the boys schedule but it was worth it.
    I like the volunteering suggestion and I was thinking simple foot soaks and home pedicures at the end of a long work and school day for you and boys even liked that a few years ago(minus the nail polish!)
    Just being the great mom and role model you are and the time with Zoey is enough:) As she gets older and more independent you will have ALITTLE more time for Me time also..
    Love ya, Stac

  2. Oh I love this post because I really relate. I almost feel as if after having a kid, I’ve forgotten what I like to do FOR FUN. I don’t really do much anymore with the intention of having fun, how sad is that? I’m with you sister and I hear you.

    1. I know, right? Who am I? What did I used to do? Honestly I’m not sure I ever had a “thing” that was mine. I’m looking for a brain engaging active thing to pursue. You know, cuz I have all this spare time…Thanks Michelle!

  3. This is exactly why I changed my job, I could feel my brain going stagnant. It was an easy job but not stimulating. So new job was the answer. I also try with all my might to make time for me every once in a while. What about doing sone volunteering with your daughter? Something positive and include her?

    1. Thanks Katie! My mom said the same thing to me today about finding a new job! I’ll keep my eyes and ears open…
      And I would love to do volunteering with my daughter. I am also thinking of things I can do at home for relaxation. Hmm…knitting anyone?

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