Sisterly Love, Sisterly Conflict

girls jeepMy daughters are approximately 22 months apart in age and even though they are only 2 and 4 years old (soon to be 3 and 5), I can tell that they are destined to be lifelong best buds.  If they aren’t playing babies, school or house, they can be found cracking each other up and giggling over the silliest of things. 

Sure, you might find one of them crying every now and then over something really HORRIBLE that the other one did (like not sharing her blanket) and there is a fair amount of picking and tattling that goes on:

“Mommy, Paityn pinched me.” 

“Addi yell at me!”  Gasp, sob, sob. 

For the most part, however, my girls get along well and I am so glad that they have each other to play with, cuddle with, and yes, even to bicker with.  After all,  important life lessons can be learned by working through conflict and disagreement.

Recently, I was a bit surprised to hear from the girls’ after school instructor that they are not getting along and are being a little too rough at school lately.  When I asked my oldest daughter about it, she told me that her younger sister disturbs her when she is sitting down trying to listen to the teacher and this makes her mad. 

The girls are going to be separated during after-school care since their sibling quibbling can be distracting to the other children. 

I have mixed feelings about this latest turn of events.  I am somewhat sad because it seemed really neat that the girls are close enough in age to be only one school year apart and I thought they would love seeing and playing with each other at school.  On the other hand, they do spend almost ALL of their time together outside of school (they even share a room) so I can see why some time apart might be good for them.

These girls love each other so much so why can’t they get along at school?girls apple

Has anyone else had to deal with sibling conflict at school?  How did you handle it?

3 thoughts on “Sisterly Love, Sisterly Conflict

  1. We’ve noticed that this issue seemed worst in the 3 and 4 year old years but has lessen now that the boys are 5 and 6 (well almost 6 and 7). I remember heated arguments between the boys screaming “you are not my best friend” at each other, really screaming at each other, even though they clearly are each other’s best friends, sharing a room, playing together all the time, even having common friends. So if our experience is any indicator it will get better soon.


  2. Oh man, this piece made me want a sibling for my daughter even more. I love that even though they argue at times, they love each other so much. I haven’t had to deal with sibling conflict at all (well, other than with my siblings!) so I can’t help there but I couldn’t miss out on saying how adorable they are.


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