We can be honest here right? No judgement, right? Well, here is my confession: I hide from my family in the bathroom. There I said it. Sometimes after my husband gets home from work, I sneak away for some quiet time in the commode. I excuse myself from the dinner table just as dinner is wrapping up so I don’t have to watch my three old not eat anymore. Sometimes I take a pen and paper and I make a grocery list or a to do list. I add things that I’ve already done so I can cross them off and feel accomplished. I plan the next day. Sometimes I read. Sometimes I just need a few minutes of uninterrupted quiet. Maybe I should market this as some sort of toilet meditation? Even though I’m away at work all day, it can be overwhelming to be thrust back into the mayhem of an evening at home trying to shepherd two children through the dinner, bath and bedtime routine in such a short period of time. It’s not that I don’t want to be with the kids or my husband, it’s just that I’d like to be alone for a few minutes.
I’ve recently learned my lesson with regards to asking to be excused from the table, or letting everyone know I’ll be right back. When I say, “I have to go to the bathroom,” my three-year-old immediately says, “NO, I have to go to the bathroom.” And runs in ahead of me. Unfortunately, we only have one bathroom. So whether I am just trying to steal some me time, or I really do have to use the bathroom, I have to wait. It’s not smart to deny a child who’s been recently potty trained a timely trip to the bathroom, no matter how long they take in there! And let’s face it, some battles just are not worth fighting.
I suspect my husband does this too. But I won’t call him out on it and he won’t call me out on it. I think it’s a fabulous arrangement, as long as he doesn’t read this!
If you need to steal a minute or two for yourself during your family’s most hectic time of day, how do you make this work? Please tell me I’m not the only one who finds solace among the soap and shampoo.