With the holiday season in high gear, there is constant talk about Santa’s Helpers. Magical little elves that help the Big Guy make toys, keep tabs on who’s been naughty or nice, and travel the earth in one night delivering presents and merriment to all. But what about moms? Don’t we deserve helpers all year round to help make dinner, clean throw-up off the car seat, and put our irritable kids down for a nap?
The other day I was having lunch with a friend. We talked about the birth of my second child in a few weeks and she asked me what family member would come stay with us for a few weeks to help out with the new baby and my three year old. I immediately burst out laughing. We don’t really have anyone close by to help us out on a regular basis, and we’re ok with that. With my daughter it was just hubby and me trying to figure out what the hell to do with an infant. And we did a pretty darn good job of it on our own. It is something I will always be proud of. So naturally I just thought with our second we would wing it once again and do our best, just the two of us, to make sure our kids are fed, well-rested and healthy.
But as we started planning for the birth, some logistical issues started to pop up. For example, my daughter was born via c-section and I was prohibited from driving for six weeks. If that were to happen now, who would pick-up my daughter from school? My husband could take care of drop-off, but he could never do both. Also, I work a great deal from home and it is my hope to fulfill my work obligations ASAP. How am I going to manage nursing an infant AND entertaining a toddler while writing a communications plan for a client?
Then I started thinking how nice it would be to have a mother’s helper, someone around to help me out for a few days a week until the baby is old enough to go to daycare. Although I can’t replace my mom, I can outsource someone to help me from going insane, especially when my daughter gets like this:
I decided to place an ad with an online agency. I went through this site when we hired our nanny a few years ago and had great success. I expected hundreds of applications to come flooding in like the last time. It’s been over a week since I placed the ad, and I have only gotten back four replies. One applicant referred to me as Marcy, lol. Two seemed like they may be the right fit, but neither of them got back to me. Sigh. Maybe it’s just the time of year?
So here we are, once again, searching to find someone to welcome into our home and help us with this whole parenting gig. It is hard trying to find a person that is reliable, good with your children, and would be ok with stumbling upon my breast pump without being too traumatized. But I have faith that someone is out there who will be part of our family, just like we have found in the past. I just hope I find them soon because the clock is ticking. So, Santa, if you’re reading this, that is my only wish. Please help a mama out.