Being forgiving with ourselves

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Hi my name is Christa an I’m a Pinterest addict.

I love taking a moment here and there throughout the day (perhaps if my daughter naps) to cull through pins and find inspiration. I have boards about everything from style to recipes to activities to do with my daughter.

Lately I thought I was very much in the middle of a parenting rut. I was feeling very tired. Not even lazy, exactly, I just had zero energy. When it’s my job to be home with my daughter all day it’s easy to feel as if not doing that job as a parent if every moment of her day isn’t enriching.

Then, again during an elusive nap, I happened to read this article, and I realized how silly and unattainable it is to feel like I have to fill every moment of my daughter’s day with a Pinterest-worthy activity. Some clever and creative activity impressive enough to show off to my friends on Facebook. I mean, to see it written out like that the words even look ridiculous. My daughter usually doesn’t want to perfectly execute some themed craft coordinated with the holiday, season, or day of the week. I’m assuming she’ll get her fill of that at preschool in a few short months. Mostly, what my daughter wants is to simply spend time we me, regardless of what we’re doing together.

I’m working hard to remind myself that everyone has off days – both me and my daughter, and that’s okay. I may feel “off,” or simply tired, and we might spend the day with a Sophia the First marathon. That’s okay. Even my usually-active toddler has days where wants to do nothing but sit and zone out in front of the television or iPad. That’s okay. It’s not because I’ve failed to fill her day with stimulating activities; it’s because she’s human, too!

Still, those lazy days get old, fast, and hopefully we can add in a wider variety of activities as weather continue to get warmer and we can expand our activity space to include the outdoors.

As we so often say, parenting is about finding balance. Those TV days have a time and a place – but I can still fall back on my stuffed-with-inspiration Pinterest boards for some activities when I’m feeling stuck in a rut. Whatever we do, as long as we’re doing it together, that’s what matters most.

5 comments on “Being forgiving with ourselves”

  1. That is such a great article. It is so true – we don’t need to fabricate memories…they just happen. I sometimes think that when I am filling their weekends with STUFF, it’s because I am trying to fill the time so that they’re not bored. But then I have a weekend like this past weekend (where we did a whole lotta nothing and the kids LOVED it) and I realize that kids need some rest, too, sometimes.

  2. Love this Christa. I was inspired by that article too. It’s really hard not to run the show all the time and provide all these great opportunities for making memories with our kids. But part of their development has to be about entertaining themselves. Thanks for the reminder and be gentle on yourself. It takes time to find that balance and be comfortable with it.

  3. Yup! Right there with you. Some days I’m on it, and full of super fun projects, and some days, I feel like I cannot possible handle another hour of talking to children without any adults. I think there’s a big misconception about the fact that this isn’t “okay”. I think it’s the norm for most of us! 🙂

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