Something wonderful is happening in this era of my life. I have been undergoing a metamorphosis of sorts. The caterpillar inside of me is breaking out of its cocoon and spreading its beautiful butterfly wings. Cheesy metaphor, I know, but please bear with me.
It seems like just yesterday I was writing this post about approaching my 30th birthday. Now that I’m officially in my thirties (turning 31 in less than a week) I’m really beginning to notice some changes in myself. I’m not talking about the occasional appearance of gray hairs (before I pluck or dye those suckers), or even the fact that I don’t have quite the same amount of stamina that I used to have. Nope. The changes I’m focused on are deeper than that.
I feel more confident in both a personal and professional capacity. I’m not as shy when it comes to communicating my needs or my talents. There’s a Dr. Seuss quote that has always been very meaningful to me and now I take it to heart even more. “Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” Great words to live by.
Criticism has always been, and probably always will be, a challenge for me but I am starting to let certain criticisms roll off my back more easily. Since I feel more comfortable and confident in myself and my decisions, it’s easier to do so.
I have an easier time accepting the fact that not everyone is going to want to be my friend, or even like me. I really used to stress myself out trying to get approval from others as if that would provide me with some sort of validation.
I appreciate the freedom, and ability, to say no to (some) things. I’m learning that you can’t make everyone happy all the time. And you know what? That’s ok.
I’m getting better at graciously accepting compliments from others whereas I used to brush them off thinking that they were “just being nice.” I had a hard time feeling worthy. I’m finally beginning to realizing just how worthy I am.
I’m really happy with where I am in life right now, although my journey is not complete by any means. To quote one of my all-time favorite bands (Aerosmith), “Life’s a journey not a destination.” And right now, I’m really enjoying this journey and the progress I’ve made. I’m ready to show off these wings of mine!
What about all of you lovely ladies out there who are in your thirties and beyond? Did you notice similar changes in yourself?