How am I doing? That’s what I want to ask my 6-year old. At my “other” job, I send out surveys to evaluate the programs I deliver. It’s instant feedback to let me know if I’m meeting my internal customers’ needs. So I got to thinking, “Wouldn’t it be nice to get some formal feedback on my parenting from my customer base?” I, like many other moms out there, am often second-guessing my choices and actions.
Here’s what I want to know:
- On a scale of 1-5, with 1 being terrible and 5 being awesome, how would you rate your experience as my daughter so far?
- Of the birthdays that you can remember, which would you say was your favorite?
- Do you feel loved and cared for even when you don’t get your way?
- I am unfamiliar with the phrase “don’t get my way”
- Do you have any memory of the time I dropped you as an infant on Christmas Eve? If no, then forget I asked this question.
- Please state your agreement or disagreement with the following statement: “Because I said so” is a valid reason for doing what your mom tells you to do.
- Somewhat agree
- Yeah right.
- When I grow up, I want to be a:
- Scientist/Rock star
- Teacher like Daddy
- True or False: Chuck E. Cheese is the devil.
- True or False: Broccoli is the world’s most delicious, perfect food.
There. That will give me a good idea of how I’m doing as a parent, right?
In reality, there is no way to really know if you’re doing it “right.” The best parenting tools that I have available to me are my eyes, ears and heart. If I trust what I see and hear and feel, then I can’t go wrong, at least not in the long run.
I can worry about making the right choices, going all the way back to when she was an infant up until the moment I close my eyes each night. But at the end of the day, she tells me “I love you Mommy” and nothing else I worry about matters.