No matter how many parenting books you read, or websites you dig through, nothing can truly prepare you for the day you become a mom. It’s so exciting and terrifying and wonderful and nerve-wracking and beautiful and stressful – all at the same time.
When I became a writer for ctworkingmoms.com (I’m so thankful Michelle took a chance on me!) I was 8 months pregnant with my second daughter. The very first blog post I wrote for CTWM’s was something very personal. It was so difficult to talk about, yet at the same time it was actually therapeutic to get it all out there in the open. It had been my dirty little secret until the day I decided to share it here with you all. The idea that maybe there was another mom out there going through something similar, who could possibly relate and feel less alone, made me feel like it was worth sharing.
I did not realize then how much this website, and becoming a part of this amazing sisterhood of moms, would impact me.
About a year and a half after my youngest was born I was chatting with my therapist (everyone should have one if you ask me!) about the fact that I did not suffer from postpartum depression after the birth of my second child, like I had after my first was born. Somehow CT Working Moms came up in conversation; how I became involved, how supportive and encouraging all of the writers are with each other. And then she asked me, “Do you think maybe this could be part of the reason why you didn’t suffer from PPD this time?”
Wow. I hadn’t really thought of that. I was just so thankful I didn’t, that I didn’t really stop to question why things were different this time around. I certainly hadn’t felt as isolated and alone as I did when I suffered from PPD and I do feel that finding this sisterhood played a significant role in that.
This was a defining moment for me. I finally realized just how much finding this supportive group of women who share a similar goal – to raise happy, healthy children – had on me. Sure we make different decisions as to how we care for our children and families, but that doesn’t matter. We act as a network of support, kindness, and non-judgment for one another. We know that we can share our feelings, our challenges, our triumphs with each other and in return receive encouragement, friendship, and strength when we need it the most.
If you look at our logo (it’s right up there on the top of this website) you will see the words “support, strength, sisterhood.” Three words that have made a difference in my life. I would even say they have changed me – how I see myself, others around me, and parenting in general. I want every mom out there to have this.
And if you’re reading this and don’t feel like you have that kind of sisterhood, I hope you find it right here with us!