Embracing Who I am


Like many people, I critique myself on a regular basis, rewinding the clock and looking back at how I acted and handled situations, good or bad. I tend to be extremely hard on myself, a perfectionist if you will. I look for ways to improve myself on a daily basis and while that is all good, it can be incredibly draining and taxing.

Why do I constantly evaluate myself, look at how I handled myself and God forbid I look at myself in a negative way, why do I let it festers for hours, even days on end?

The answer is unclear. I recently talked to my husband about it, hoping he might shed some light on the situation and all he could offer was, “that’s just who you are.” I looked at him, puzzled, thinking, really that’s all you could offer? Then I thought, well, he is right. It’s who I am, it’s what I do, but is it healthy? That answer is clearly no.

So that brings me to the word “embrace.” It’s a powerful word and can quickly turn a negative situation into a positive. Instead of changing my thought process and overly analyze my actions and behavior, why not just make this simple on me and embrace who I am. Over the past week, I’ve begun doing just that.

I am embracing WHO I AM. My positives, negatives, strengths and weaknesses. We are all human, make mistakes and instead of festering on WHY I act the way I do, why not embrace who I am and LOOK for ways on how to improve. Thus, changing a thought into a result. Make sense?

So, the next time I think, “why the hell did I just say that?” I am going to ask myself “how could I have improved that situation.” At the end of each night, I am going to remember I am a good person, wife and mom. We are all too hard on ourselves and it’s important to start changing our thought process and embrace the “amazingness” within us!

7 comments on “Embracing Who I am”

  1. Yes, yes, yes! Great post. I struggle with this as well – and have also received the same answer from my husband! Funny that I read this today, because I did exactly what you recommend here: improved how I would have normally handled a situation. And I liked how I handled it when I looked back.

  2. I love this Melis. Embracing who we are instead of critiquing ourselves, that’s a really powerful thing. But as a fellow perfectionist it’s super hard to make that mental shift, but certainly worth the effort.

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