Life is so hectic with two young children and two full-time working parents, that often times my husband and I are just getting things done that need to get done in order to get everyone out of the house, get to work, and get the kids to school. Amidst the chaos however, we are two individuals who live together and parent together. That can be both fantastic and oh, so hard.
On a good day, I only get mildly annoyed once, and can quickly work through it. On a bad day, I get pissed and stuck in a funk of feeling taken for granted, overworked, and misunderstood. It can be tough managing two children with a husband who doesn’t always act the way I’d like, help in the ways I’d like, or agree with the ways I’d like to parent.
At the same time, it can be unbelievably amazing to share the experience of loving two people you created together and watching them learn and grow. The reality is that no one cares as much about the funny thing your daughter said or the fact that your son is learning to ski, than your significant other.
I suppose that’s what helps me through the tough times. That, and taking better care of me, one day at a time.
For the last few months, I’ve been taking better care of myself in order to take better care of my children and family, and I have to say, it’s been working. I guess I see it most in the way I handle tough situations with my husband.
It’s not always easy, and if I’ve learned anything it’s that it certainly won’t come easy. My relationship with my husband, my being healthy, my raising children, all takes commitment and work. At least now though, I realize that there are tools I can use to make this crazy thing called parenting possible and quite pleasant.