The other day I read a crazy statistic that said that said that 55% of moms felt they were not doing a good job when they compared themselves to other moms. That’s more than half of all moms! Do we have so little confidence in ourselves, or do we just think that everyone has it so much more together than we do?
It’s easy to feel that you don’t measure up. I mean, just scroll through your Facebook feed – there are moms who actually get all their kids to smile in their family photo…at the same time. There are moms with defined abs who run marathons (or at least a triathalon or two), and those whose husbands actually call make a point of tagging them in a photo while proudly declaring what an amazing partner, cook, or parent they are.
And then there are the rest of us. The moms who can’t get out of the house in the morning without yelling at least once, whose idea of exercise involves picking up laundry baskets or sprinting into school with a pair of left-behind eyeglasses. Nobody posts that on social media. You have to dig deep to find that type of honesty – admit it, that’s how you found this site!
I will openly admit that in my 13.5 years of being a mom, I don’t think I’ve ever truly felt like I knew what I was doing. Yes, there were moments where I felt like I was #winning!, but they are rare. I just don’t believe there are any “right” or “wrong” answers. So, instead of feeling certain that you’re making the right decision, you’re always questioning yourself. No wonder less than half of us feel like we’re doing a good job. There’s no real metric by which to determine if the job you’re doing is good or bad. It’s simply your judgment, which, if you’re like me, you question almost EVERY SINGLE DAY!
So, I decided to put together a little checklist to quantify your parenting skills. Here goes:
Do you love your child?
That’s it. If so, you’re doing a great job! Keep it up.