Author: Sharlene

Our Thoughts are not Facts: More on Being a Survivor Mom

There is nothing as soothing after an honest, raw blog than someone telling you they needed to read it.  I was honored and touched, so thank you, fellow survivor-mom.  She spoke to me about how she put her “survivor stuff” away when she had kids.  She began hearing the things we’ve all heard when we travel down

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Embracing the Muck: Survivors Parenting

At this point in my life, when the “reminders” come they don’t take my breath or presence of mind like they once did.  I automatically look around whatever room I’m in and notice who I am with.  I pay attention to the sights, sounds, smells and breathe deeply.  After a couple of decades of practice, keeping myself “here

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“First…then:” Parenting in Binary Code

We learned the “first…then” behavior strategy from our daughter’s birth-to-3 team.  At the time, the goal was simply trying to help our daughter get a sense of time and order.  “First you go to sleep for a nap.  Then, you can play more.”  We used social stories, which are essentially a tool to convey any routine, such

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When Should You Medicate Your Child?

As if I knew the answer to that question, right?  I have Googled this very question, paraphrased in various ways, more than once.  Heck, perhaps that’s how you landed here now.   If so, like you I have wondered and struggled and suffered through deciding.  I have sat across from my wife, daughter, her pediatrician, teachers, and mentors in tears, wondering

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Responding to Autism’s Surprises

We are forever learning to be better parents to our children, and that is not different when parenting a child with special needs.  Occasionally, someone from Sage’s school will ask if we have any tips to respond to a certain trigger or behavior, and outside of bonding over our shared helplessness, at times we’ve got

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