Tag: adoption

A Letter to My Adopted Son: On Having to Share You

November is National Adoption Month and with this, I add my truth to all the rest that is bravely being spoken. “I didn’t give you the gift of life; life gave me the gift of you…” To my son, The other day you told me that sometimes you want to be “un-adopted”. It broke my heart, but I

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To 4 Or Not To 4…

Our social worker stopped by for a quarterly home visit yesterday and mentioned that our foster licence will be up for renewal in a few short months.  As he started handing over the stacks of paperwork that would need to be completed for renewal, he stopped himself and asked, “Wait, do you want to renew?”

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Confession: I Don't Love My Kids The Same

Equal, sure.  But definitely not the same.  When I think of each of them, it summons feeling as distinct as each of their personalities.  My relationship with each is so different, as is my love. First, there is my son. My love for him is fierce and primal.  Like a mama bear who had to

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Confession: I Don’t Love My Kids The Same

Equal, sure.  But definitely not the same.  When I think of each of them, it summons feeling as distinct as each of their personalities.  My relationship with each is so different, as is my love. First, there is my son. My love for him is fierce and primal.  Like a mama bear who had to

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Post-Adoption Depression

Go ahead and start typing “post adoption” into Google.  If yours is set up like mine, to give you short-cuts to the most popular search terms, your first option will be Post Adoption Depression. Here. Here. Here. Here. No shit.  This is a real thing.  I’ve spent years in the foster and adoption community.  I’ve completed

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