I’ve been wanting to write about this topic for a while. As a fat person, who gained weight only in recent years, I’m noticing more and more microaggressions about my weight. Just so we are all on the same page, “microaggressions are the everyday verbal, nonverbal, and environmental slights, snubs, or insults, whether intentional or… Read More Fat Microaggressions
I think a lot of the judgment issues among parents (and from non-parents toward parents) arises from a fear of the unknown. This article by famous free-ranger Lenore Skenazy came up on my Facebook newsfeed, and nestled beneath the share I found a host of sympathetic comments. I read the comments before I read… Read More I’m not a Free-Range Mom, but it’s ok if you are. I think? Landing the Helicopter and surveying the scene.
First of all, until I read this article on LinkedIn, I had no idea who Judith Sherven was. I still don’t really know. She’s some kind of psychologist, apparently. Since her work does not seem to appear in any parenting-oriented blogs, I am thinking this highly offensive article she posted was probably a misguided… Read More A Working Mom’s Rebuttal to Judith Sherven’s “Mommy Manager Syndrome”: Five Ways Moms Rock at Workplace Management and Business Leadership
It’s Moms For Moms Day next week, and we’re all supposed to be talking about this and doing supportive stuff for moms. Unfortunately I have been less than supportive of anyone this week, most of all myself and my family. The new job and the winding down of my business has put a lot of… Read More Judgment Bad, Assertiveness Good: Stand Up For Yourself, and Your Parenting Practices, Without Being a Jerk.
In the wake of our absolutely amazing Campaign for Judgement-Free Motherhood, our community has been discussing what it really means to be judgmental, at least in the context of parenting choices, and whether we should be careful not to judge the judgers for being judgmental.* Got all that? In other words, some of the not-so-nice… Read More Judgment, Social Empathy, and the Falsehood of “Personal Responsibility”: Walking In Another Mom’s Shoes
Things have been crazy busy with me. Between scoping out potential office space for my practice, keeping up with client phone calls and emails, trying to remember to bill people for my time (I have this thing about taking people’s money! It feels so weird!), and keeping house and home with two little ones, the… Read More It’s the Most Important Job I’ll Ever Do. But I’m the Judge of That – Not You.
If you’ve kept up with my posts on here, you’re aware that I hate cooking, or at least that I hate the difficulty and stress that comes from having to cook for an entire family. It’s more of a keeping-up-with-the-joneses thing — I always feel like my friends can make awesome gourmet meals when I’m… Read More A Kitchen Full of Judgment
On an average day I wake up and realize I am already late for everything I need to do for the day. Rush to get the children out of bed and ready to drop off at school/daycare. The process of getting out the door with three kids all ages four and under isn’t as easy… Read More But You Don’t NEED a Cleaning Lady
Someone needs to talk about this issue, and it looks like it’s going to be me. Women get really, really sensitive over all things pregnancy and parenting related. That’s not hyperbole. It’s just true. Yes, this is a sex/gender stereotype. But sometimes stereotypes exist because they have a kernel of truth to them. I have… Read More Arguing with Your Real-Life Friends over Things Like Breastfeeding Is Much Worse than Having Online Debates with Strangers.