In my professional hat, I’m a social worker and leader working with those who’ve survived or witnessed domestic violence. Part of the role I love the most is training new staff, volunteers, and student interns. In part, training is about the ropes: where to find and who to ask for what, policies and procedures, the… Read More Holding Space for Race
On June 26, 2015, the Supreme Court of the United States declared it unconstitutional to deny same-sex couples the fundamental right of marriage. It was a long-awaited, historic decision that has been celebrated in rainbows of every size, shape, and hue in the days since. As a gay woman, I too celebrated. Justice! Equality! Acknowledgement!… Read More Celebrate*
Monday was Martin Luther King, Jr Day. Tuesday the country’s first black president gave a State of the Union address and still I feel we are so far away from the dream Martin Luther King had that it frightens me. I’ll be honest, race isn’t really something I think about on a day to day… Read More Some thoughts on race.
On this day to honor Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. and all he did to advance equality for all, I confess, I have no idea how to talk to my kids about race. We’ve been reading “Same, Same but Different” for as long as I can remember and my older daughter can often be… Read More Discussing Race with Children
that I will teach my children about being black. Never assume you are not welcome somewhere before assuming that you are. Give people an opportunity to surprise you. Give them an opportunity to surprise themselves. You count. Your vote counts, your presence counts, your dollar counts. Don’t support something you don’t support. Don’t like something?… Read More What I've Learned About Being Gay…
I am sorry that as your mom, I will be putting the burden of “avoiding racism” on you. Since I cannot fully trust that I can put the burden on society, I can only comfort myself by telling you that soon, I will be apologizing to your sister for putting the burden of “avoiding rape” on her… Read More A Mom’s Letter to Her Black Son
“I stand here today, talking about this issue of racial discrimination, because I believe it threatens to rob ANOTHER generation of all the opportunities that all of us want for all of our children, no matter what their color or where they come from.” -Mellody Hobson When I met my seven-year-old off the bus Friday, with my… Read More “Be ‘Color Brave,’ Not ‘Color-Blind,’ With Your Kids On Memorial Day (And Every Day)”