My Week As A Solo Parent

Aug 1, 2014 by

This week my husband has been on a business trip and I have been the sole caregiver for my 6 month old baby. I frequently travel for work, but my husband only journeys out of state once a year for work. He comes home tonight after midnight. But since this was my last morning of getting not only myself but my child ready and out the door in time to get to work, I feel like it is cause for celebration.

We survived the week!! WOO HOO!! At some points I didn’t know how we would, but we came out on the other side!

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Here are my parting favors:

The duality of breastfeeding

Aug 1, 2014 by

I wanted to tell you something pithy and sweet about breastfeeding; anything I put down just came across as insincere and trite. The truth is, nursing a child is not something easily done, or easily explained. I find the whole experience so contradictory, a few neatly packaged words aren’t enough.

Breastfeeding is the most foreign natural thing I’ve ever done. Women’s bodies were designed to feed their children. So how can nursing be so wrought with complications? Mastitis, over production, pumping, nipple shields, clogged ducts, overactive let down, thrush…I could go on. Any mom who has attempted it, even for a day, knows how strange feeding a child with your body can be.

And yet, something about breastfeeding made me feel connected to something – someone – outside of myself, yet an extension of myself. A selfless offering to the child I’m responsible for and love beyond all other things. I was fortunate to be able to nurse, and therefore there was no question that to do so was the right choice for me and my family.

Important Things I Learned from My Mom’s Best Friends

Aug 1, 2014 by

We all have a best girlfriend.  The one (or two) you call to gripe to when your husband, boss, random stranger does something supremely annoying, who has a glass of wine and a willing ear at the ready when you have to get away from your daily routine, or  when your kids come home with lice and you need someone who is willing to comb through your head looking for nits (yup, this happened) – there are virtually no limits.  But this isn’t about my best friends this is about my mom’s best friends, Bonnie and Sue, and how they influenced me so very deeply as I grew up.

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Sue (left), Mom (center), Bonnie (right) taken 2008.

Primary breadwinner second edition

Aug 1, 2014 by

I wanted to revisit how it has been going since I am now the primary breadwinner and almost sole provider  Ever since our second child was born, my husband has been the primary caregiver. With the roles changing I wanted to discuss the good, bad and ugly about this change as it applies to my family.

So here are a few updates and/or tips to anyone else who is embarking on this relationship:

1. I feel a ton more pressure: I know this sounds nuts but knowing my income and bonuses are imperative to our survival definitely bring a level of pressure that you cannot avoid. Before there were two incomes so it wasn’t such a big deal. Now I have to admit when I do not get an extra bonus it directly affects our month and budget. I am in sales so sometimes I am doing well and sometimes not so much.

Confession: I’m Bad at Prioritizing Date Nights

Jul 31, 2014 by

This is a bit embarrassing to admit. I can count on one hand, ONE HAND, the number of times my husband and I have gone out together (without our daughter) during the past 3 years.

Pre-kid we use to go on dates all the time. We loved going out to eat, especially considering we  live in a town that’s filled with incredible restaurants. We’d also watch movies on the couch, go out for hikes and even go for runs together every once in a while. But after our daughter was born, we kind of put our relationship on the back burner.

Our daughter was incredibly colicky for the first 6 months of her life. Like, so colicky that we almost went nuts (we also drank a lot of wine during that time period). I’m not sure we went out together at all during her first year. The times we have gone out (up until recently) we were fortunate enough to have family that could watch our daughter, but my family moved from Connecticut to Florida about 2 years ago and we lost our main babysitters.

Pancake Mix Muffins

Jul 31, 2014 by

As Jake is getting older, I’m finding more and more ways to have him help me out in the kitchen.  I’ve always loved cooking and baking, and pre-kids, my oven had quite the workout.  Last weekend I had the chance to try out a new recipe with him, and WOAH was it a big hit!  And Mommas- it is super easy, and I’m willing to bet you already have every single ingredient in your kitchen at this very moment!  Enter, Pancake Mix Muffins!!  Jake helped out by stirring the batter and scooping a tablespoon of the mix into mini muffin tins.  While we waited the 15 minutes for them to bake in the oven, he got to stir the cinnamon and sugar used to toss the muffins in, fresh out of the oven.  It was a win win for all- I got to get my bake on, and he got to do his favorite thing- mixing up batter with a huge spoon.  Livvy even got in on the action, and couldn’t wait to get her four teeth into a little muffin.

Just what I needed

Jul 31, 2014 by

Once in a while my kids are so frustrating that I wish I had a book to reference to remind me of their adorable moments. Since I don’t really have the extra time to even, like, iron a shirt right now, this will have to suffice (and this right here is why I update Facebook so much):

Ah, Audrey and her infamous Bedtime Stall Tactics…

“Guys, I just wanna hang out with you. Can I hang out for a couple minutes?”

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“Mom, when I be go to kindagahden? Wivea is going. I want to go. I am big. I am not small. I am clean! I took a tubby!”

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Audrey: I am too excited for tomorrow.
Me: I know, but you have to go to sleep so the bunny can hide our eggs.
Audrey: I CAN’T WAIT.
Me: Goodnight, Audrey.
Audrey: Goodnight, Mom. … IS IT TIME YET?!?!
Me: Audrey, it’s been FIVE SECONDS. Go to sleep.
Audrey: Okay, Happy Easter, Mom.
Me: Love you.
Audrey: OH MY GOODNESS I CAN NOT WAIT.

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