Let Them See The Dirt

Oct 2, 2014 by

I’ve talked before about my perfectionistic tendencies and they way that they impact my parenting.  It is hard for me to strike that balance between being the best mom I can be while still allowing realness to show. Recently, I was faced with a situation in which I had no choice but to let the walls fall down and allow my rawness to see the light.  It was a big old ‘Jesus take the wheel moment’ and He answered in the form of my sweet, yet often spicy, 4-year-old.

Let me set the scene:

I’m home alone with 3 children after a long and stressful day at work (aren’t they all?). Two out of three of my children are throwing massive temper tantrums (the big one over homework, the little one about it not being time to color).  I’ve tried de-escalating, redirecting, and implementing firm but loving consequences – and yet, they still scream.  I’m now onto plopping myself on the couch and drinking straight from the bottle.

What If We Loved Everyone the Way We Love Our Children

Oct 2, 2014 by

I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately. The love we have for our children is like no other love we’ve experienced. Why is it that it’s so much harder to feel that same way about the people in our everyday lives? Can you imagine what it would feel like to walk around loving others in the same way we love our children?

Unconditional Love & Patience

When it comes to our kids we feel love easily. Even when they’re being a pain, whining about something for the millionth time or doing something we’re not thrilled with, we love them wholeheartedly. Our opinions of them don’t change based on their bad behavior because the love we have for them is truly unconditional.

Can you imagine what it would be like to love, accept and be patient with the people we encounter every day? We’d feel more peaceful, connected to others and our relationships would be much improved.

Blogger Style: Mommy Goes to Work

Oct 1, 2014 by

For Cora

In the last two weeks I’ve had several people lament to me that they have no idea what to wear to work now that they have a new job that requires them to step it up in the style department.  So I donned my super hero style cape and jumped into action.

Let’s be honest.  Dressing for work and for being a mommy is a difficult task.  We need to look good enough at work that we are taken seriously, but also safe enough to walk in the house with the kids before or after work without worrying about getting syrup on your ass or snot on your shoulder.  This means, care-free, washable, comfortable clothes.  Dry Clean Only is getting the big stink eye here.  (Although I have been known to hand wash dry cleans with good success, but be careful.)

Letting Go of the Negativity

Oct 1, 2014 by

Insecurity. Self-doubt. JEALOUSY. Anxiety. Resentment. They are all such heavy, negative emotions. At the same time, they are natural, innate, and above all, powerful. They have the ability to overwhelm and take over. They have the power to weigh you down, both literally and figuratively. Personally, I’ve experienced those feelings at different levels throughout my life. And at times they’ve consumed me. And during those times, I just gave in and accepted it: this was part of my personality; part of who I was.

As time passed, I came to realize that is NOT who I am. Maybe it had to do with maturity, life experience, becoming a wife, a mother, I’m not sure. Maybe I just didn’t want to feel insecure and weighed down by heaviness of negativity. So I made a conscious effort NOT let those destructive words describe me anymore.

Letting-Go

“Friendly-Judgey” Conversations

Oct 1, 2014 by

A few months ago, while on vacation with my family, I had a very awkward conversation with another mom. What I thought would be a collegial exchange of mom stories with a second-time mom (me), giving first-time mom (her), words of wisdom and encouragement from my vast treasure trove of experience, turned out to be a conversation that felt like an ambush consisting of twenty points of judgment in two minutes.

It went something like this:

Her: I can’t believe you brought your kids here!  You won’t get to have any time for yourself or have fun.

Me:  Oh, well we go everywhere with our kids…it has totally been fine.  There are two other little babies on this trip, too.  So far everything is going great!  Gotta start them off young, right?

Her: Don’t you have any family members to watch your kids?

Supermom

Oct 1, 2014 by

Hey there, Supermom. Yeah, I’m talking to you.

If you don’t feel as though you’ve earned that title, you are dead wrong. Granted, some days and weekends are less productive than others, but I hope that you recognize the fact that you are a multitasking, plate spinning, super talented woman who is actually doing more than you may be giving yourself credit for.

Warm up for back-to-back preschool birthday parties.

Warm up for back-to-back preschool birthday parties.

How “perspectacles” changed my thinking

Oct 1, 2014 by

There are so many things about social media that I really love. I love that it lets me stay connected to people who I otherwise wouldn’t get to see often. I love that it lets me stay up-to-date on the lives of my friends and watch their families grow. I love the ability to get advice from so many friends on things I’m unsure about. I love the sharing of ideas and resources that it allows.

And then, there are the things I don’t like…mainly, the competition and feelings of inadequacy it can create. We see snapshots of lives that are just tiny peeks into what’s really going on. For example…I might post this:

"Lesson plans and cocoa on a crisp fall evening..."

“Lesson plans and cocoa on a crisp fall evening…”

…which leaves out reality. It shows just what I intend to show, and certainly not the whole truth, which looks a lot more like this:

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